The transformation of control in all areas of life doesn't just happen from 'good sex', numerous sexual experiences, or even masturbation alone. The transformation through sexuality is much deeper than that. People must constantly work with their sexual selves, in order to practice self-worth behaviors in their outside world. Masturbation is a great way to do this if a person is not in a relationship (and even if they are).
Sexuality is not switch that is turned off and on based on reproduction, conquest and age. Sexuality is a part of our lives until the day we die. If we don't practice being in-touch with our pleasurable selves we are not appreciating our body and what it can do for us. This type of negligence can be part of reasons why people don't speak up for themselves in stressful situations, why people don't say "no" when they really don't want to do something, and why some women aren't having orgasms while having sex with their partners. If a person can't speak up while sharing their body with another, it is no wander if they didn't speak up for themselves in numerous situations.
Sexuality begins from the day humans are born. The moment a baby comes from the womb we look for the sex of the baby to announce to all the waiting patrons. Being a mother of 4, I discovered the sex of all my babies by ultrasound well before they were born. Once we learned the sex, my whole family bought outfits and toys that were related to the sex of the baby. Already I had a little man, or sweet princess who everyone was prepared to goo-goo ga-ga over. Already they are expected to marry the opposite sex and have children, before humans are born they are seen as sexual beings.
Our sexuality ends when we die, if from the moment we are born we are brought up to sexually conform the societal norm, then how could the behavior just "poof" go away when we become 65 and get senior citizen discounts? It doesn't. A woman is not a woman only because she birthed children or got married, or even just because she menstruates. A female is a female before puberty and she is a female after menopause. A woman is a woman because she identifies as a woman, whatever makes me feel like a woman, makes me a woman. Period.
So if being sexual makes me feel like a woman at the age of 65 then I am a woman and if the tingles I get in my clit when I smile at a cute guy or girl at the store make me feel like a woman, dammit I am a woman. The mature population has the right to a pleasure based safer-sexual lifestyle and the benefits of masturbation and/or sexual intercourse do not disappear once one becomes seasoned. Humans can still have sexual desires well into their 90's, and they are living that long. Our genitals provide sexual pleasure even when we cannot reproduce, that alone is proof there is more to sex than conquest, performance and pro-creation.
As an intimate life coach, I encourage people to come (pun intended) to their own understanding of their sexual desires and pleasures. If a person comes to my workshops, it is because they are ready. Ready to unlearn all they thought they knew about sexuality and come to a new understanding and appreciation of how their sexual self can flow into all aspects of their intimate life.
Ms. QuiraA
Intimate life coach…
Whenever you're ready…™
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