Happiness is a Choice?

Yes…

All the reading I do I notice how people put their own selves into misery, wallow in it for a while and then emerge with great confidence and readiness to take over the world.


Now there's nothing wrong with this approach because that's just how we as people seem to operate. But I want to introduce you to something new, a new way to function. Let me explain.


I'm a new blogger, so I'm surfing the net reading blogs, reading responses and I come across a page where someone is thanking the blogging community for their success in being a blogger of note. She begins to talk about how she shared a really personal experience with the 'community' after lying to so many friends and family and now she knows for sure her purpose in life is to be a writer.


Well of course this sounds interesting, so I decided to read the winning post.


I continue on and the blogger tells a story about a wonderful man she met via the internet and they fell in love. She spoke with him and visited off and on for 2 years. Eventually they decide they like (love) each other enough for her to move to his town. They commence to search for an apartment for her and make plans for their new life together. Well to make a long story short, she ends up finding out he is already living with a woman and has no intentions on pursuing a real relationship with her.


She's heartbroken, betrayed, and decides she wants nothing to do with 'Mr. wonderful' and doesn't even unpack the suitcase she used coming back from the last trip with him. She goes a whole year without unpacking this suitcase until she moves into a new apartment and decides it's time.

Again, long story short when she opens the suitcase she finds all these things that used to make her feel pretty and empowered. She finds her favorite bathing suit, earrings, her journal and her clothes even smelled of her favorite perfume, which she hasn't worn in a year.


She comes to the realization that she had packed up and hidden things that made her feel good, because 'Mr. Wonderful' lied to her. She punished herself for what he had done, and for an entire year.

The moral of her story was once she cleaned the suitcase she ends up coming across an abused woman in need of a suitcase to start her new life, hopefully a happy one.


She finally gained the courage to write about her 'truth' and becomes a blogger of note, for such an inspirational story. Beautiful, now I have a thought for everyone reading:

Did she not know all the things that made her feel good, and

feel like a desirable woman was in that suitcase?

She neglected herself for an entire year because someone lied to her, then emerged with an abundance of esteem once she was recognized for writing about how unwonderful 'Mr. Wonderful' truly is.


Now she can be a writer.


She was already a writer! She had been writing for a long time and she even kept her journal in that suitcase. Instead of wearing her favorite clothes, favorite jewelry and writing in her journal, she took a time out from her Self. For a year, that's a long time to ignore your Self, and why do you have to. You don't.


You are all you have. You take you with you all day, and if you're a believer,

God is in You. How do you ignore You?


A lot of us do. This wonderful woman is not wrong, I am not slamming her, she just so happens to be like most people and instead of hugging herself and telling herself this man's actions had nothing to do with who she is, she chastised herself, took away the things she loved, things that empowered her with or without 'Mr. Wonderful'.


I hear you say, but she emerged! She came out on top, and look she is happy now that she's writing! She's alive!

Yes, and she chose her experience to come out this way. What I mean here is this, if she had unpacked that bag sooner, maybe she would have picked herself up by the boot straps sooner. Maybe she could have avoided a year of suffering, looked at her favorite things for comfort and still given the suitcase to an abused woman in need. She could still have ended up with a great story.


We can make choices to be happy sooner. Happiness is a choice that is made in the moment, it is neither conditional nor situational. Instead we choose to suffer, seems like as a punishment, but what an unnecessary one.


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Ms. QuiraA