I am sitting here trying to promote my facebook group to get 1 million people to say they self-pleasure (masturbate) and feel good about it. But then I got to thinking, why? Why would we want to change the way the world views sexuality, what is the point? The point for Ms. QuiraA is so people know that sex is meant for pleasure. Before and beyond child-bearing age we are sexual beings, children masturbate before even knowing what their genitals are called, and do people stop getting it on after 50? Of course not, and that's well above child bearing age. So as proof in itself sex is more than about procreation, it's about pleasure too.
In my opinion masturbation should be a person's first sexual experience, and should be positive. I used to think I was the only person who thought this way until I attended an AASECT (American Association for Sex Educators Counselors and Therapists) conference and met a wonderful woman named Betty Dodson who is a feminist that promotes sexual freedom, which heavily includes masturbation. Masturbation is such a big deal because the relationship with ourselves is such a big deal, if we can love ourselves enough to let go and submit to our own desires than we can begin to let go and submit to all that we have to offer ourselves.
Changing the world's view on self-pleasure would mean people would have to begin owning their own orgasms, as Betty would say. Women would be responsible for saying what feels good to them and men wouldn't think they have to be a magician to make a woman orgasm. Parents could even begin to teach their children the real deal about sex, the birds and the bees and the flowers and the trees. Did you know the flowers and trees signify pleasure? 'Sex talks' with kids seem to leave that part out a lot, but I say let's bring it in!
I want young girls to know their
orgasms are a part of their sexual experience with another person too. I also want them to know that deep and emotional feelings come from sexual release, with self pleasure they will be able to experience those emotions with themselves
first. When people self-pleasure they can allow themselves to let go to themselves, their Spirit, God or Universe, if they can do it and feel good about it.
This idea starts with grown-ups though, and not all grown-ups either. I am calling out to the ones who self-pleasure and feel good about it, tell someone who you think could benefit from knowing. Then tell young people who are sexually active, then tell your own children, when they're ready, the point is tell them. Tell them what to expect from self-pleasure, tell them what they can achieve on their own tell them to get to know their own bodies before (or while) sharing it with others. Talking about sex isn't forbidden anymore, it's ok, it's natural, it's a part of our whole lives.
Those of you who don't self-pleasure and feel good about it, but want to, go for it.
Here's a tip:
Make a date with yourself, even if for only 45 minutes. Take some time to sit with yourself (you can even do this in the mirror). Say something funny, something to make you smile or even something soothing to make you relax, then compliment yourself (this may seem awkward at first but go ahead try it, you'll be all alone, no one will even know you are doing it). Scan your body from head to toe, focusing your attention on each body part. Once you have finished slowly begin to touch yourself, try your nipples, your thighs, your arms, your genitals. All parts of your body. Do this as long as it feels good. When you finish, take a moment to notice how you feel, then compliment yourself again. Enjoy!
Whenever you're ready…
~Ms. QuiraA~
www.msquiraasgoodies.com
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