What My Thanksgiving was about…

It's Thanksgiving and usually I am dreading the holidays! My family is fun but no matter what, they still get on my nerves! Lol. But this year was a little different, I decided I was going to choose how I felt today. I decided, I'm going to make today fun, I'm going to put all my lovin' in these greens I'm cooking, I'm going to make my corn bread the way I want it and i will have fun when I get there.

And I did!

I decided that when somebody said something to piss me off, I wasn't going to get so intense, i will just say what I think back and if people want to talk about it, cool. Well I did that, and it worked! Of course I ended up talking about my favorite subject and that oh so sacred word, Masturbation! Right after dinner, in my mother's dining room, with my grandmother, mother, and my aunt, along with my step-father and his sister.

Now no doubt, the tension in the room was thick, my grandmother was so nervous she didn't know what to do! My mom said for me to please watch my mouth because she's a foster mother and these weren't her children. Lol. But I didn't care, we were talking. And that's ALWAYS my point. I believe, if we can slowly begin to tell the truth about sexuality with each other then we'll maybe we can be honest with our children (or they could at least over hear), so they can make healthier choices about their sexuality.

So my aunt said a very wise thing tonight! She said, "People are beginning to talk about it, people are opening up. Now is the time. It's ok to talk about it because it's a natural part of life." Sex and intimacy, love, relationships with others and most importantly, the relationship with our self, should be talked about. We teach our younger generation how to respond to everyday life, how to live in the real world, let's teach them how to love themselves, genuinely, with a mind, body and soul connection. In my dream world, we, adults, are teaching this by living it. We don't deny our sexual selves, yet we embrace our sensuality, by smelling the roses, and embrace our sexuality by loving our pleasurable selves.

Loving ourselves is essential to self-worth and masturbating is self care as is brushing our teeth. So your dentist says brush daily and Ms. QuiraA says masturbate healthily. What's that mean? It means to masturbate as often as you like and always feel good about it.

So when asked what am I thankful for? I'd have to say I'm thankful for ME, being able to love myself makes me be a better mother, partner, daughter and sister, so I can be thankful for my family, especially, all the women in it.

Whenever you're ready...

~Ms. QuiraA~